If you have decided to try online dating, you’re not alone. Many couples today will tell you that they met online, especially couples that are older and not into the traditional dating scene such as bars and club which in most cases won’t work anyways. Don’t panic, start with a simple, honest description of yourself and your interests and your dating profile will evolve over time. As you begin to see who is responding to your profile, you will see the need to make changes to stop attracting the wrong people. Again, your profile should be honest, include recent pictures, and be specific about you want and don’t want in your life and future. Here are few short tips to help you start.
The Pictures on Your Profile Matter
You already know that your pictures on your dating profile make a big difference. This is where honesty comes in. Make sure to use up to date photos, you are not who you were 2 years ago, we all change and improve, your hair looks different, your style is different, and I am sure you are a better your person overall, show this person not the old you. Also, make sure to share pictures that don’t only focus on your looks but also showcase the activities you enjoy. Each picture should tell a unique story about you and give the other people a chance to start a meaningful conversation, maybe a picture of you dancing, mountain claiming, doing a sports activity of your liking or any other activity you enjoy.
Images Should be of You, and Only You
Any images that you share in an online profile should be of you only. While you may want to share images of you among your friends and family, keep it simple for those looking at your profile. You don’t want a picture of you and three friends, which may confuse someone also they may not want their pictures to be shared online, so respect their privacy. Keep your friends, family, and children out of your dating profile and save those pictures for when you get to know someone better.
Answer Questions Honestly
If Christianity matters to you, don’t be afraid to say so. If you have strong political opinions, make that clear. If you’ve only been separated from your spouse a few months, don’t hide it. The more honest you are with any profile questions, the more people will get to know the real you. Some people are hesitant to provide such clarity about their beliefs, afraid they will turn off potential dates. This is exactly why you should be brutally honest, to avoid going on a date with someone who will be turned off by your authentic self, don’t waste your time on dates that don’t go anywhere. Dates that lead to nowhere make you frustrated with online dating while you could simply avoid them by being clear about what you want and who you are.
The Best Matches for Your Online Dating Profile
Once you answer enough questions and you are clear about your intentions, you should be ready to start meeting people. If you set up a date with someone, take a careful look at their profile. Mentally take notes on what they present about who they are. Again, you can see a lot about a person by the type of images they share and their description. When you go on the date, you should consider what their dating profile says and match it with who they are in real life. While you may be brutally honest, this doesn’t mean everyone else is going to be. If you see inconsistencies right away, move on. However, if you notice that things don’t add up don’t be hesitant to clear things up right away. I am not saying be paranoid and act like a detective, but make sure you are spending time with a person who is as clear and honest about who they are as you.
Online dating can be very frustrating or at the same time very rewarding depending on how you set up your profile and whom you chose to go on a date with and whom to avoid. Now go ahead and good luck finding that special person.